“𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙙𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙨𝙩𝙤𝙥 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙧𝙮𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙨𝙤 𝙢𝙪𝙘𝙝?”
She’s got a 3-month-old baby girl at home, and looking in her tired eyes, I’m transported back into those raw days of early motherhood.
Baby is sleeping well, she explains, but this anxious Mama wakes up every half hour with an urge to check on her. 𝘐𝘴 𝘴𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘬𝘢𝘺? 𝘐𝘴 𝘴𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘰𝘬𝘢𝘺?
I remember the constant vigilance, and I recall my own mother’s advice, that everything will be alright, that eventually I’ll feel 𝚗𝚘𝚛𝚖𝚊𝚕 again. I’m not sure that was 100% true, but I understand her need to tell me it would be.
So, what could I tell this new mama? 🤱
“It’s normal to check on her. Your motherly instincts are strong, and the more you trust them, the better you’ll feel. Just remember, your sweet girl takes after her mama, and her instincts are strong, too. Listen to your body, and listen to her. The rest will work itself out.”
I’ve surprised myself. This is the advice I longed to hear when the nights were long and the days were a blur. To trust myself.
My client smiles, nods her head. We keep working.
This coaching session from last month keeps coming back to me, and as I turn it over in my mind, I realize there’s something deeper.
Everything in motherhood, in life, comes down to a decision. We can choose fear, or we can choose love. We can worry about what might go wrong.
Or, we can love and trust that everything is happening just as it’s supposed to.
Love or fear. That’s it. ✨
That’s not what I told her, and looking back, I don’t think that’s what she needed to hear. But there’s a version of me that did need to hear it, and it got me thinking that maybe you do, too.
Which one are you choosing, beautiful girl?
Love? Or fear? 💗