If you have a spirited child fighting you on every single request you make, please know it gets so much easier. It’s worth it!
Cue Wilson Phillips, because you need to #HoldOnForOneMoreDay.
Stay committed to being calm, kind and firm. Ignore the judgement from other parents with their creepy compliment children. 😏
Keep filling yourself up so you have the patience needed for this endurance race. Meditate on what is extraordinary about your little wild stallion.
This picture commemorates the last time I tried taking my daughter to a dance class. I wanted her to be one of those sweet little girls in a tutu at the barre. But something set her 4 year old brain off and she raged for what felt like hours in the car, refusing to let me gently put her in her car seat. She was a wild animal - scratching and screaming. I didn’t want to resort to an angry physical struggle so I ineptly tried requesting, commanding even begging. Nothing worked as I sat there useless in the car at some dingy strip mall outside the ballet studio.
Finally I quieted myself down. Just breathing for a bit telling myself, “you are ok”. Then I announced in a small friendly voice, “I’m going to see if I can skip all the way around the parking lot. Want to come with me?”. “Yes” she tearfully admitted.
So we skipped holding hands and the mood between us changed. We reconnected. Eventually we skipped right back to the car. She joyfully bounded up into her car seat.
Check my stories for a glimpse at her now as she prepares for her first dance class since that fiasco 11 years ago.
Second times a charm!